~Like the way Eve was 'shaped' from Adam's rib~
Bone of My Bone, Flesh of My Flesh
Years ago, I asked God to give me a spouse. "You don't have one because you didn't ask", God said.
Not only did I ask for a spouse but I also explained what kind of spouse I wanted. I wanted a nice, tender, forgiving, passionate, honest, peaceful, generous, understanding, pleasant, warm, intelligent, humorous, attentive, compassionate and truthful spouse. I even mentioned the physical characteristics I dreamt about. As time went by, I added to the list or requirements of my wanted spouse.
One night, in my prayer, God talked to my heart: "My servant, I cannot give you what you want."
I asked, "Why God?"
God said, "Because I am God and I am fair. God is the truth and all I do is true and right."
I asked, "God, I don't understand why I cannot have what I asked from you?"
God answered, "I will explain. It is not fair and right for Me to fulfill your demand because I cannot give something that is not your ownself. It is not fair to give someone who is full of love to you if sometimes you are still hostile, or to give you someone generous but sometimes you can be cruel; or someone forgiving, however, you still hide revenge; someone sensitive, however, you are very insensitive..."
He then said to me: "It is better for Me to give you someone whom I know could grow to have all the qualities you are searching rather than to make you waste your time finding someone who already has the qualities you want. Your spouse would be bone from your bone and flesh from your flesh and you will see yourself in him/her and both of you will be one.
Marriage is like a school. It is a life-long span education. It is where you and your partner make adjustments and aim not merely to please each other, but to be better human beings and to be a solid team. I do not give you a perfect partner, because you are not perfect either. I give you a partner with whom you would grow together."