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July 24, 2001

"Does age matter in a relationship where the woman is more than 5 years older than the man? Although common but still unacceptable by some parents."


Does age matter?

I always used to want to have a man who was around my age or a few years older. Having someone who was younger was considered a major disaster for a woman, so I thought. Considering the situation I am in now, you can say I went through an 180 change.

I have dated many men in my age group or older and it got to the point, I was on the brink of giving up till I received a message in my 'Inbox' from a 26-year-old. His message touched me because it mirrored my feelings, the loneliness, and the search for the 'one' to fill our lives. So I wrote back that we two lonely souls should get together.

My consequent mails were filled with sarcasm meant to scare him off and I offered my telephone number but he was cautious. Fine! So be it. Then he called and I fell for his voice.

We were aware that I was no Lina Teoh and he was no Brad Pitt when we exchanged pictures. He had boyishness and a maturity that I found delightful and attractive.

We met a month later and I discovered that the boy I thought I would find was actually a man who looked older than his age, mirroring the many trials he had gone through in life. I looked for the beautiful spirit I had fallen for in this person and finding him, I realized that at this moment in time, this is the person whom I want to spend my life with.

At first, because of the age gap of 8 years, which his parents object to, we agreed to part when the time came but he didn't expect to develop strong feelings for me, to the point that he refused to say goodbye.

Now amidst all the objections and quarrels he has with his parents, we have finally realized the possibility of what can be on the night of the eclipse of the moon. Doesn't all this sound so gushy? Well, I can't help it, I am in love with the most wonderful man who is only 26 years old.

Age does not matter at all in love. All you need is to understand each other, patience, to be happy, to laugh and to talk with each other, to communicate your wants and needs, happiness and sorrows, to be there for each other and to grow together. Then you just can't go wrong.